A New Day

Fresh starts are such a good thing. I’m grateful that bad days come to an end, you go to sleep and wake up to a new day, a different day and hopefully a better one. Yesterday was the worst day I’ve had with depression in a long time. But today is a new day and it’s going to be a better one.

I’ve been realising that I’ve been using social media to numb a lot over the years. I don’t think it’s healthy. I need it for work but I had excess accounts that I don’t need so I got rid of a bunch of them – including the ones associated with this blog.

I didn’t start blogging to get a following. I love the little community that I’ve connected with on WordPress but the majority of the people I most enjoy reading and connecting with on here are not the ones I connect with on Twitter or Instagram so those accounts are gone. It’s funny because on Twitter I had built up a decent following pretty quickly but it felt so fake. Most of those people didn’t actually connect with me or read my posts. I guess I didn’t with most of them either. I get that others will have a different experience or want to use social media to promote their blogs and that’s cool. It just wasn’t for me.

Anyway – I decided to live in the real world as much as possible. I’ll still be here on WordPress though. I enjoy writing here and reading your blogs. There are several that I follow closely and connect with regularly and I’m happy with that; I don’t need thousands of followers.

Well I guess that’s my little update for today. I’ve deleted a bunch of apps as well. Seems like a good time to declutter my online presence. I’ll have to face all the feelings now if I’m not numbing them – will need to watch my alcohol intake doesn’t go up as that’s another go-to for numbing. Hopefully I can hack it.

What are your thoughts on social media? Do you love it or hate it? Do you need it for work? Do you use it to promote your blog? Do you think I did the right thing or made a big mistake deleting those accounts? Let me know your thoughts. 🙂

15 thoughts on “A New Day

  1. I have a Twitter and an Instagram account. I use neither. I have less than 15 apps on my phone, and the one I use most frequently is for the local weather. Social media has its place, but it seems most of it is about self-promotion. I’ve never been about that and don’t expect that to change. I vote for facing the emotions – even the depression (and I’m fighting it every day right now myself). Emotions are like a splendid feast – you taste, you indulge, often you overeat and then you finally stop stuffing yourself and get up and leave the table, taking with you only the memories of the experience. Well, that’s my take anyhow! I’m glad you aren’t leaving your blog – I enjoy reading your posts!

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  2. Thank you for your lovely comment. That’s a very encouraging thought about emotions too. We will overcome the depression I believe that but numbing doesn’t work. Thanks for reading 🙂

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  3. I do not do social media – just this blog…

    I only have/had a Facebook which is only family and close friends… I just walked away from all of it last July.

    Was such peace, you become happier and start to enjoy life as life ❤️ is like a breath of fresh air without it ❤️

    I found it to be heavy, everyone is angry, or strongly opinionated or trying to sell something, saying how perfect their lives are, and then commenting on your life

    I like to have the freedom to not be influenced when making decisions… I can get the facts I want and are correct, and have my own opinion without influence of anyone else.

    I might go back someday? I don’t know – they all want me to … 😝 but I am totally not down with it lol

    I really really really enjoy this blog thing though ❤️

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  4. Great post! I felt similarly to you about social media. There’s a “bigger following” on other platforms such as Facebook and Twitter… but no one bothers to comment or try to connect with what you share, it just seems so fake! And no wonder! How can one be real in a sentence long post? It takes time to explain real thoughts and emotions. WordPress is full of real people who take the time to share, relate and encourage. Sure, I only have a couple hundred followers, but if they actually take the time to read what I’m writing, then they are worth more than a million likes.

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  5. I listened to an interview the other night with Glennon Doyle. You might have heard of her – I hadn’t.
    She talked about her struggle with alcohol for 15 years and how in the early part of recovery and being sober she felt awful – all the pain and emotions – she remembered why she started drinking in the first place!
    She worried that the awfulness meant that the problem was not the drinking but what was underneath – that something was wrong with her.
    She thought that she was missing the secret to life that everyone else knew.
    On articulating this someone told her “If there is a secret to life, the secret is that the reason it feels hard for you right now is not because you’re doing life wrong but because you are finally doing it right. That feeling all of your feelings is incredibly hard, which is why so few people do it. All feelings are for feeling – even the hard ones.”
    I’ve been thinking a lot recently about the benefit in sitting with pain and emotions – how letting them settle without numbing or distraction brings understanding of who you are and what matters to you.
    And from there we grow.
    Xx

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    1. Thanks Katie. That’s an encouraging thought. It is hard to feel all your feelings sometimes but the understanding and the growing are the good that comes out of it. Xx

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  6. For me social media is a tool. It is not my end all be all. It does help me connect with people such a friends who have moved back to their countries. My blog has allowed me to interact with people I would have never met if I did not have my blog.

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  7. I have a Twitter account but don’t use it. I don’t get Twitter. I like Instagram because I like to look at pictures; back when I had a commute I could unwind at the end of the day looking at pictures from national geographic and it was like a mini holiday.

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