Taking a break.

I thought about doing this a few months back but I didn’t end up going through with it. I’ve decided to take a little break from WordPress (among other things) – I’m not sure how long for. I’m feeling the need to simplify my life for a while. I’ve got quite a bit going on between work and studying and life in general. I’ll miss this wee community and reading all your blogs but hopefully it will clear a space in my head for other things. Take care of yourselves blogging friends. I wish you all well. 😊💗

Wednesday’s Wisdom

There’s not much I need to add to this wisdom really. I guess it resonates with me because for a long time I tried to be the person I thought I needed to be. The person I thought everyone else wanted me to be. I did this to the extent that I didn’t really know who I actually was any more. I lost myself while trying to be what I thought I should be. Losing yourself is hard and it’s not helpful in the long run. Now I’m trying to find myself again. I’m trying to discover who I really am and to be real.

Does this resonate with you? Have you ever tried to be someone you’re not to please others, or for some other reason? Let me know in the comments. 😊

I’m always reading something or other. Books, social media feeds, study notes, blogs and more. Recently I’ve become even more aware of how much wisdom I come across in what I read so I decided to share some of it with you. I’m honestly not sure how consistent I will manage to be with this or how long I’ll keep it up but I’m going to try. It’s all part of the growing I need to do.

Wednesday’s Wisdom

I’m not sure of the origins of this piece of wisdom. It’s one of those quotes that many people have incorporated into their own ‘wise words’ in various ways. I’ve been thinking about it a lot over the last few weeks since one of my cousins posted something about it on Facebook. I guess it just got me thinking again about things in my life that have been hard to accept and how I’ve wrestled with them. I realised that acceptance can be a lot like trust if you have faith in God – trusting that He is in control and working things out for your good even when you don’t understand what He’s doing. It reminded me at the time of the prayer that is popularly know as the serenity prayer.

The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change.
The courage to change the things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference.

What is your experience of this ‘wisdom’. Has acceptance brought you peace or lack of acceptance created turmoil? Are there any circumstances where this quote doesn’t apply? Let me know in the comments. 😊

I’m always reading something or other. Books, social media feeds, study notes, blogs and more. Recently I’ve become even more aware of how much wisdom I come across in what I read so I decided to share some of it with you. I’m honestly not sure how consistent I will manage to be with this or how long I’ll keep it up but I’m going to try. It’s all part of the growing I need to do.

Wednesday’s Wisdom

Apologies for the fuzziness of this image but I grabbed it off a friend’s social media and I have no idea where it originated. I really wanted to share it though because I love the sentiments although I’m not sure how many will be achievable this year. With Covid restrictions still in place some will be more difficult than others – like being more social. I can’t wait till that one can happen personally; I’m so missing being in a group of friends and being able to hug them. I know for some people that’s no big deal but I need that connection.

I have started by making one small change though – I’ve decided that for a while at least I’m going to take a day off social media each Friday. For me that’s Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and LinkedIn (I’ll let you know how that goes sometime.) I’m not counting WordPress at the moment because I feel it doesn’t have the same mindless scrolling effect on me. I became aware a few weeks ago just how much time I was spending on my phone and realised that I used to spend a lot of that time reading. I’ve often thought that I don’t have much time for reading these days but if I swap out the scrolling I can definitely fit more in. 😝

Which of these sentiments do you like best? Is there anything on this list that you’d like to put into practice this year? I’d love to hear how you plan to go about it too? Let me know in the comments. 😊

I’m always reading something or other. Books, social media feeds, study notes, blogs and more. Recently I’ve become even more aware of how much wisdom I come across in what I read so I decided to share some of it with you. I’m honestly not sure how consistent I will manage to be with this or how long I’ll keep it up but I’m going to try. It’s all part of the growing I need to do.

Pushing through 2020

Copied from a friend’s Facebook

I’ve been thinking about writing something for a while. It’s that time of year – I wanted to wish everyone a Merry Christmas but I didn’t quite get round to it. I want to reflect on my year but I’m not quite sure where to start right now. There have been lots of good things happening and I’ve grown too but there have also been times that I’ve struggled and it’s been an effort to push through. The last few weeks have been a struggle but I’m still getting up in the morning. I’m still pushing on and by the grace of God I get through the days and sometimes I’m even able to be a blessing to others. I’m getting great feedback in my business, my family are healthy and I am blessed with a lovely home, food and clothing. I have some amazing friends who are there for me whether I’m feeling great or needing support. I have a lot to be thankful for.

I’m not sure what next year holds, or even tomorrow but I know that God will get me through. Some might see my faith as a crutch – something to hold me up because I can’t manage life on my own. Maybe that is one word for it? I don’t mind admitting that I can’t do this on my own. I tried being strong (and for a long time I managed it) but even then I had faith. Now I don’t think I’d have made it this far if it wasn’t for my faith. For me, the reality is that the other coping strategies I have are not enough. I need Jesus every day and I thank God for Him.

In case I don’t get round to posting anything else in the next few days I just want to wish everyone who reads this a very happy, healthy and prosperous year in 2021. I hope it will bring many good things your way.

I’m not a good blogger!

I’ve been thinking about this lately – I’m not a good blogger 😅! Good bloggers are consistent, they write regularly; some once or twice a week and some daily. If you follow this blog you may have noticed that I haven’t posted anything for weeks! Maybe it’s even months?

Anyway, I’ve realised recently that I have a mental block (or something) when it comes to consistency. I started thinking more about this after I lost my 300 day streak on my Bible app a couple of weeks ago. I beat myself up about it, whining to hubby that I’m not consistent. He kindly pointed out that 300 days is actually pretty consistent – I’m just not perfect. After mulling this over for a while I realised that this is my problem (or one of them) – I equate consistency with perfection in my head. I put so much pressure on myself to be consistent/perfect with a bunch of things that I lose the point of doing them and the joy of doing them in the process. Sometimes I even lose the motivation to do them because I feel sure I’m going to fail.

I’ve been experimenting with this a bit over the last week or so. I’ve deliberately been trying to just ‘go with the flow’ more and not put myself under pressure to do certain things at certain times or do things daily even. I’m ignoring those little red bubbles on my screen and the warnings that my streak is in danger. It’s been interesting – I’ve rediscovered some energy and motivation to do things just because I want to and not because I HAVE to. On Friday I actually WANTED to go for a run!! Sorry, I should have warned you to sit down before you read that! 😂 I know… I never thought I’d actually write that either!

This morning I felt like sitting down to write this post. The truth is I actually feel like sitting down to write fairly often and I have ideas of things I SHOULD write about quite a lot too. I think I feel guilty about spending the time on writing though – that’s probably a thought for another post really. Anyway, it will be interesting to see if being less ‘consistent’ will actually result in me blogging more. 😝 Don’t get me wrong – I do understand that consistency is a good thing – I think it was just my view of it that wasn’t helpful. If anyone has any tips on how I can be consistent without putting too much pressure on myself I’d love to hear them.

Is it just me or does anyone else struggle with this? How do you deal with the consistency/perfection balance?

Wednesday’s Wisdom

I’ve been thinking about this quote and other similar ones a lot over the last couple of weeks. I’ve been really struggling with my mental health on and off – feeling low and also anxious. I realise that I need to find happiness (or perhaps contentment is a better word) within myself and not expect or hope for others to make me feel that way. Happiness is an emotion that comes and goes and we can’t expect to be happy all of the time but contentment would bring peace.

When I was a child I had a little plaque with a quote by Mother Theresa on my wall. It said “If you don’t enjoy what you have how could you be happier with more?” For a long time I lived by that and I made the most of everything I had and didn’t feel the need for anything else. Something happened though and I started hoping and dreaming for a more fulfilling life – was that wrong? I don’t know. I guess I became dissatisfied with the way things were.

I’m still mulling this over I guess. I’m not sure what the right balance is. I don’t think it’s wrong to want more necessarily but I suppose I have to look to myself (or to God) for that and not to other people? What are your thoughts on happiness? How do you find happiness and contentment? Should we have any expectations around happiness coming from other people?

I’m always reading something or other. Books, social media feeds, study notes, blogs and more. Recently I’ve become even more aware of how much wisdom I come across in what I read so I decided to share some of it with you. I’m honestly not sure how consistent I will manage to be with this or how long I’ll keep it up but I’m going to try. It’s all part of the growing I need to do.

Intentionality

intentionalitynoun
/ɪˈntɛnʃ(ə)nalɪti/
1. the fact of being deliberate or purposive.

This word has been in my head for the last few days. Maybe it should be my word for the (rest of the) year? Maybe for next year too? There were a few things that highlighted the word ‘intentionality’ to me over the last week.

Last Thursday I had a video call with a friend/leader from church. We’ve caught up a couple of times since I did a course with church in the first part of this year. Basically she wants to help me to find my purpose and grow and reach my potential – all of which is really encouraging. Since the last time we chatted I’ve done quite a few questionnaires and ‘tests’ to work out what my values and gifts are. When we were chatting about those my friend was asking how I was going to make sure that these things were prioritised in my life.

Over the last few years I’ve been working out lots about who I am as a person and what is important to me but this conversation really made me realise that I need to prioritise certain things in my life and not feel bad about making time for them. By a process of elimination I had worked out what my most important values are and then we talked about how I could make sure I have these things in my life. My top five values are love, connection, adventure, growth and making a difference.

More wisdom from Bob Goff on Instagram

This post popped up on my Instagram and made me think again about intentionality. It’s really helpful to think about it this way. In the past it’s been easy for me to have my identity defined by what I do/did rather than the other way around. Who am I? Who do I want to be?

On Sunday morning we had some input from Bill Johnson from Bethel Church, Redding CA. during our online service. A story he told made me think about this again. He said there are three redwood trees behind his house and they each drink 40 to 50 gallons of water a day. They had a drought a few years ago and he was saying that during that time no one would resent the trees for drinking their 50 gallons of water because that’s what they were created to do. He said “It’s not selfish to behave as we were designed to be.” “Our responsibility is to discover what we were designed for.”

Sometimes I feel guilty about spending time on things like adventure and connection because they’re not things that bring in money or particularly benefit my family in any way. When I think of myself in the same way as the trees though it puts a different slant on this. If this is who I’m created to be then I need these things in my life to grow and flourish. Isn’t that enough reason to be intentional about prioritising them?

What are your thoughts about intentionality? Is it important to prioritise things that are important to you even if they don’t seem to benefit anyone else? I’d love to hear your opinions.

Wednesday’s Wisdom

I don’t really have anything to add to this quote today. I think it says it all. Just be kind!

I’m always reading something or other. Books, social media feeds, study notes, blogs and more. Recently I’ve become even more aware of how much wisdom I come across in what I read so I decided to share some of it with you. I’m honestly not sure how consistent I will manage to be with this or how long I’ll keep it up but I’m going to try. It’s all part of the growing I need to do.

Wednesday’s Wisdom

Wisdom from my Instagram feed

This popped up on my Instagram feed recently and I really love it. I definitely have a tendency to ‘shrink’ myself or take a back seat or ignore my own feelings and desires in order to meet the needs of others. It’s a difficult one in some ways because I was brought up to think of others before myself and I still think there’s a lot to be said for that too. I guess there needs to be a balance though because constantly being ‘selfless’ actually causes resentment to build up when others don’t reciprocate.

What do you think of this quote? How do you find a healthy balance between allowing yourself to live fully and ‘bloom wildly without regret’ and considering others? I’m sure these are not mutually exclusive but there are definitely times when it’s a choice between the two in my opinion.

I’m always reading something or other. Books, social media feeds, study notes, blogs and more. Recently I’ve become even more aware of how much wisdom I come across in what I read so I decided to share some of it with you. I’m honestly not sure how consistent I will manage to be with this or how long I’ll keep it up but I’m going to try. It’s all part of the growing I need to do.